I Can’t Read Your Poker Face

My teacher, a psycholog, said that the sexual harrasment which happened to a student in the kindergarten at Jakarta two months ago, could be predisposed by the disability of the boy of recognizing the signs of danger. He let his teacher and some janitors abused him coz he did not know that it endangered him.

The psycholog also said that normally a four-year-old kid could recognize if an adult intended to rape him. This did not happen to the victim and it was abnormal. And, surprisingly, this is common to young people nowadays. Young adult and kids today have trouble in reading nonverbal expressions. They could not understand anybody else’s communication except if it involves words. It means that, they must be told verbally that someone is getting angry or sad to them, or even gonna threat them, to let them know.

What did predispose this?

One significant factor was gadgets. Kids and young adult now are getting used to always hold their gadget. They spend a lot of their times to look at their LCD on their hands. And the worse thing is, they keep looking at their gadget while someone else is talking to them.

The psycholog even told me that a research has been developed to explain this. It said that, compared to kids who do not always hold gadget all the time, there was delayment of awaring danger to those kids who was stucked on their gadget.

I am shocked that I am not surprised about it. Delayment of awaring danger tends to inability of demonstrating their expression. And also tends to inability of recognizing anybody else’s expression.

No wonder the kindergarten kid could let himself sexually abused. He cannot read those adult’s poker face.

10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. The Sanguine
    Jul 04, 2014 @ 17:05:23

    Menarik!!! Waktu gue baca di awal kalo dia “beda” dengan anak umur 4 tahun lainnya, asumsi gua udah lsg, “apakah krn terlalu sering liat gadget?” :(((
    Sedih yaaa…. Emang anak kecil jangan terlalu dibiasain main sama gadget juga sih ya… Inget dulu jaman kita kecil, kita maennya gundu :p


  2. Nandar
    Jul 05, 2014 @ 00:09:55

    anak kecil kalau main gadget harus diawasi terus


  3. kurnia eka
    Jul 05, 2014 @ 06:53:54

    Vicky, I remember when we were in med school, Specialist to be were so busy with the study and stuff. Now you’re studying to be a gynecologist, but still have time to do your blogs thing ( it’s more than 1 I notice). You must be have more than 24 hour a day


  4. Ririn Setia
    Jul 06, 2014 @ 16:13:56

    halo kak vicky, kunjungan perdana di blog kakak, salam kenal ya 😉


  5. FelicityFelicity
    Jul 07, 2014 @ 16:39:59

    Interesting… In my observation, most (native) norwegian –regardless the age group–might be seen as naive on ‘reading the sign of danger(s)’ from our perspective. Since the criminality in day to day live is much lower compare to the one in Indonesia, they (the norwegians) are not so used with activating the body’s alert system. In Jakarta, my brain will automatically be in ‘alert mode’ once I leave the door on the way to public areas (beware of pickpockets, beware of traffic, beware of this and that…)

    The first thing I learnt when moving to Norway from Jakarta was to reduce my body’s alert system and to be more positive toward people, well…at least to hold the system in a less frantic level than usual 🙂 On the contrary, I have to ‘teach’ my husband (native norwegian) to increase his alert system whenever he is in Indonesia. To conclude: environment does influence our behaviour and response toward danger(s) regardless the age group. Just my two cents 🙂


    • Vicky Laurentina
      Jul 08, 2014 @ 11:04:13

      Yes, Felicity. Our body alert system is a trainable one. If it’s trained frequently to recognize danger such as abusing, raping, robbery, then we’ll be able to recognize if someone else intends to endanger us. But if we get used to enclose ourselves from signs of danger (such as, by getting involved with cellphones frequently), then we won’t be alert the danger though danger exposes our environment all the time.

      The rate of criminality in Norway perhaps is not as high as in Indonesia. So probably Norwegian’s crime alert system won’t be effective if they live in Indonesia for just a couple of days 🙂


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